We need to admit that we lose and it’s okay

Here’s the thing. Sometimes, we simply got screwed over. We worked hard, we qualified, but it didn’t really matter. We have the potential, we’ve got moves, but never got the recognition. And there’s nothing we can do about it.

Except to not give up. We can always try.

That place I used to be happy working for? They got me transfer non-stop. They seemed to offer me a future only to crush my hope. Like an empty can.

One day, I was planning for a secure retirement at the company. The next day, I sheepishly backpedaled. Worse part—you know you deserved better.

Sometimes, people got their jobs rescinded for a good reason. More connections, bigger chances to develop. Do you think this is a kind of cliché that you can only find in stories? No, it exists in real life.

Worst part — you know you actually hadn’t done anything wrong that such thing could happen to you after all.

For me, they just didn’t have room for someone new. The company still needed adjustments here and there, and apparently I was not in the picture. I was qualified. I was only there in the wrong time.

That experience was sure not the only time I got chewed up. Years before, I failed to get in into my dream publishing company. What I remember is sulking over a cycle of impulsive buying. Also, bitching about it to some friends who didn’t care. Then apply to another company. Different domain but at least I got accepted.

Disappointments pile up over time. We should savor them with more accomplishments.

We can feel the proudest once we overcome the disappointments. It also makes the accomplishments felt more satisfying.

Sure, work hard matters. But, imagine a movie where the actor works really hard, then easily wins. Boring. We should’ve fallen asleep.

We want to see people work hard, then fail. Lose. Pick themselves up. Keep going. Why?

Because that’s what we all have to do.

When I see someone gets what they want the first time; it actually kinda pisses me off. Like, really? No failures? No random chances? Those people obviously exist (or maybe they’re just not telling the complete story).

However, not everyone is lucky enough to learn from much disappointment.

The other thing about losing and disappointment is that not many people are brave enough to talk about it. Hell, most people don’t take disappointments well. One bad trip, they fall apart.

Losing is a universal condition and it’s okay to lose sometimes. Karma has to balance us out. Don’t neglect your disappointment and be honest with yourself. Feel it, then give yourself a hard slap to get back up, and fight again.